Tell me a little about yourself outside of kink. What do you do day to day?
I’m a career IT geek. I’ve recently returned to full time study, majoring in Psychology. I also work at a couple of fetish venues as a performer and safety staffer. I’m also in polyamorous relationships and between all those things, have very little free time left over.
Tell me a little about yourself inside kink.
I attended my first public fetish event in November, 1998, where I lied about my age. I’ve spent most of my adult life addicted to kink and public performance. I work as Dungeon Monitor and house service top at a couple of public venues and live in a house full of rope and floggers with a lovely dungeon. I’m predominantly a top, and I have huge interests in impact play, rope bondage and electro play.
When did you first know you liked rope?
I spent more than a decade in the kink scene, just not getting rope. It seemed like a slow, awkward way of doing something I could do with leather or cuffs. A few years ago, I met a rope top who was from my home town, but had been living in Japan. I saw her with rope in her hands and for the first time I saw something that spoke to me. I got to know her former partner, another rope top who’d also been living in Japan. He ended up as one of my closest friends, and the bug I caught from that first scene I watched, became part of me.
How often do you play with rope?
I try to play with rope and a partner a couple of times a week. I practice with rope, or fuss with conditioning or finishing most days. It’s a bit of an obsession.
What other kink activities interest you?
I’m very big into impact play and electro play as a top. I’ve also really enjoyed receiving flesh hooks.
Have you ever had an incident in rope? Has anything ever gone wrong?
I’ve fucked up. I’ve been arrogant, and wrong. I’ve misjudged my own skills. I’ve had bruising and broken skin while self suspending and I’ve fucked up while tying others. I’ve compressed the radial nerve on a partner and I’ve had near misses that scared the pants off me and damaged relationships. Rope, especially suspension bondage is edge play. It has real risks.
What is the best bit of advice you could give to somebody who wants to try rope?
It’s advice that I didn’t take. It’s advice that I’ve never really taken. But learn the easy way. Learn from the mistakes of the people who made them before you. Move slow, and learn easy. But like I said? I’ve never taken that advice myself.
Why did you want to be a part of this project?
I’m not someone who usually bunnies. But I adore the art that was being created by this project, and I love breaking expectations and being something outside of preconceptions.