Tell me a little about yourself outside of kink. What do you do day to day?
I’m a prepress coordinator for a media company. Basically, that’s a fancy way to say that I build ads for newspapers! I always wanted to be a photographer. I branched out into professional work after study, but the paid work kind of killed the love of it for me. I love taking happy snaps of my friends and family when I can though (even if my only medium is toy cameras and my trust iPhone!).
Tell me a little about yourself inside kink.
Before I became involved “officially” in kink, I identified as a switch (even though I was unaware that there was a word for it!). I’ve come to realise my switch tendencies were more explorative – ie, to gauge my partners interest in kink. Now that I’m part of a community that is kink-oriented, I have comfortably identified as a submissive. I’m still relatively new to the community, but have found my most intense experiences through rope and impact play.
Are your kink identities and ‘real life’ identities similar?
I do have submissive tendencies outside kink in that I’m usually hesitant to speak up for myself or defend myself in some situations. I won’t send food back at restaurants, and I usually let my housemate decide what we eat every night. At the same time, I am quite dry and sarcastic in “real life” and won’t hesitate to voice my opinion on matters I really care about. The headstrong side of my personality doesn’t come through very often in kink – at least until I am comfortable being cheeky with a Dom/top!
How do you participate in kink activities? Are they just in the bedroom, or do they extend beyond that?
A little of both! I meet with my rope tops once a week to be tied – it gives us a chance to catch up, decompress, and chat about our lives (both in and out of kink). Other than that, I try to get to as many events as possible to catch up with friends and make new ones.
Why or how is rope different from other methods of bondage, for you?
I love the texture of rope, and that it can be soft and gentle, but alternately firm and harsh. I don’t feel like you get the same duality with different bondage materials.
How do different styles of rope make you feel?
I like gentle rope when I need to relax and really get into subspace. I love being tied on my side and stroked whilst bound tightly in those moods. When I’m feeling cheeky/energetic, I love being teased while tied, and predicament rope to a certain extent.
What do you think is the most important part of a rope-scene for you?
The connection between the top and the bunny. Communication is also key to ensure the safety and (relative!) comfort of everyone involved.
What is the best bit of advice you could give to somebody who wants to try rope?
Be thorough when deciding who you want to play with. Take advice from other people/riggers/bunnies and make sure they practice RACK and take all necessary precautions when it comes to safety.
What would you want someone who knows nothing about rope to know about rope, and about you?
That it doesn’t actually hurt…unless you want it to! I used to pore over photos of rope play and suspensions in awe, but having no idea how people became involved with it. I’m just a regular person with an office job, a housemate and a dog – if I can become part of the scene, so can you!
Why did you want to be a part of this project?
I love rope. Basically, that’s it! I love that Kat is presenting her audience with all different kinds of bunnies, and allowing them a medium to discuss the different aspects of what rope means to them. I have so much respect for the talented riggers I have spent time with so far, but have been dying to be tied by Kat for a while now.