Tell me a little about yourself outside of kink.
Day to day I am a fitter and turner apprentice in Bundaberg and Gladstone.
Tell me a little about yourself inside kink.
I relate mostly to dominance and submission – it seems that that was what drew me to kink. However, I love weird and wonderful things, so often the more extreme kinks perk my interest and curiosity. I love experiencing new things, and although rope wasn’t one of my original kinks or interests, it has certainly grown on me over the past year.
Other than rope, what other kink activities interest you?
Many things interest me. If it’s weird and wonderful, or pushes the ‘acceptable’, I’ll probably enjoy it or be interested in it. I love D/s, I love deportment and how it can relate to BDSM. I love role play, or student teacher scenarios. I’m curious about pony play and pet play. Medical play and needles also interest me.
How do you participate in kink activities? Are they just in the bedroom, or do they extend beyond that?
I don’t live kink 24/7. I wouldn’t be against that option, but it’s not my current situation. I participate in events when I get the chance. Because I live quite rural, I often have to travel long distances to participate in kink; but getting to see my friends and all the weird and wonderfully sadistic things they come up with is worth it.
Why or how is rope different from other methods of bondage, for you?
I haven’t tried many other methods of bondage so I can’t really say. I think the best way for me to explain it is in relation to music. In floorwork, with a rope artist I can connect with, I feel as though I become a harp, and the artist’s fingers and rope sweep against my skin to draw soulful melodies from my very core. As each rope is hooked around my body and dragged against my flesh, they are like the bow to my cello – my skin is the strings and the music may be silent, but it is very, very palpable. It is energy, and connection. I don’t think other methods of bondage would provide the same ‘sway’, and the same intimacy and closeness that rope demands.
How does rope make you feel?
This is very hard to describe. Like I said before, sometimes I feel like the energy exchange as something akin to music, as though I am an instrument and they my musician. When the rope work is completed, sometimes I can reach (for lack of a better way to describe it) a blissed out state. In that time, I am calm. I am safe.
I often have to be in rope for a little while to reach this state. Rope can be painful, as it holds your body into positions that it is not used to, and I have to be very stubborn to reach my bliss point. The pain builds and it gets to a point for me, where I want to scream in agony, and want to be untied.
Instead though, I come to accept the rope, accept my position, and sink into another state of mind. I suddenly don’t want to be freed from the ropes that dig into my skin; the pain sinks away, it just doesn’t hurt anymore, and it’s no longer important. I have found my bliss and the ropes then feel like a tight hug keeping me safe.
What do you think is important to keep in mind, when picking a rope partner or partners?
I look for people I trust and know, or have the recommendation of people that I trust and know.
Why did you want to be a part of this project?
Because Kat said I should!